Masturbation 101 - 6 Techniques to Stimulate the Vulva
Masturbation is not something that everyone will be born knowing how to do perfectly. Masturbation is something that can be learned, and that's a good thing, right? Although it requires training and practice, once you get into this world of self-love, the habit only brings benefits. If you have a vulva and don't even know where to start touching it, or if you already know and like it, but want to explore new touch techniques, these tips are for you.
I've separated 6 ways to explore the vulva and clitoris that can bring a whole new perspective to this intimate moment, which many times we don't know, but can be super rich! Remembering that the important thing here is to look for more ways to feel pleasure, and not to impose cake recipes that lead to orgasm. That simply doesn't exist, okay? So, with no expectations of miracles and lots of lubricant, put on your favorite relaxing music, look at your vulva with a little mirror, look for the most sensitive areas with your fingers, and then close your eyes to start a delicious journey.
THE TOUCHES:
SPIRAL
With your fingers or vibrator, make circular movements around the clitoris and expand the movements to more areas of the vulva, decentralizing the touch. Then return to the starting point and repeat as many times and at the pace you prefer.
UP AND DOWN
With your fingers or vibrator, play with speed and rhythm as you move up and down. Try this stimulation on the outer lips, the pubic mound, and directly on the clitoris. You can smear it with lubricant, and also vary the speeds.
GOING AROUND
Stimulate the outer and inner lips, and focus on the entrance to the vaginal canal, but without penetrating the finger or vibrator. Here the focus is on feeling the sensations that stimulating this area can bring, but staying only around it, and not inside. If you want penetration after a while of external stimulation, try to hold back as long as you can!
GROPING + PRESSURING
With your fingers or the vibrator, give gentle "slaps" on the vulva and clitoris. Or if you prefer, press your fingers or the vibrator on the region, and move your pelvis back and forth, making the pressure of the touch vary between more or less intense.
COME HERE..
For this stimulation, you will need to use your index finger or a g-spot vibrator (any that is slightly curved at the tip, and is larger in size than a mini bullet). Lubricate and insert your chosen stimulator gently into the vaginal canal, if you prefer to use your fingers, make the "come here" motion with it. If you're using a vibrator with you, make an up and down motion instead of a back and forth motion, as this helps stimulate the g-spot more accurately.
PEACE & LOVE
With vibrators that have "little ears", two bullets (one on each side) or two fingers forming the "peace and love" symbol, position the clitoris in the middle, and use the stimulators to go up and down. This will resemble the way we are used to seeing penile stimulation. But the bonus here is that this way you can more fully activate the 8,000 nerve endings on the glans of the clitoris.
These are just 6 ways, but there is a whole world of possibilities when it comes to the powerful act of masturbation. Try different positions (face down, sitting, standing in the shower, etc), change the rhythm and pressure until you find the right one for you, alternate between vibrations and hands, try these techniques for pure relaxation or pure pleasure, and know that there is no right or wrong way to do it, you define when and how.