Ejaculation: The expulsion through the urethra of a watery, odorless liquid produced by Skene's glands in the case of people with a vulva, or by the prostate in the case of people with a penis (and which may or may not contain spermatozoa).
Orgasm: A high peak of sexual pleasure that releases tension and produces a surge of endorphins and other chemicals. Orgasms usually result from stimulation of the penis or clitoris, although they can also come from other parts of the body.
If no fluid comes out, does that mean I didn't have an orgasm?
A: Not really! No orgasm needs the expulsion of fluid to happen. Just as not every expulsion of liquid necessarily comes along with orgasm.
And if it comes out, how do I know it's not pee?
A: Ejaculation is definitely not pee! But because the two fluids come out through the same channel (urethra), it is possible that a little bit of pee may join the liquid produced by Skene's glands. For better assurance, always try to empty your bladder before stimulating the region.
What are Skene's glands?
A: They are a set of glands located at the entrance of the vaginal canal, close to the urethra and clitoris, and are part of this area we call G-Spot. They are responsible for the production of this liquid that is very similar to what the prostate produces, and which is generally expelled when the region is stimulated.
I have a vulva and until today I have not had ejaculation, is that normal?
A: Absolutely! Some people have great ease in the production of liquid in certain glands, and others not so much. And all these scenarios are normal, okay? In the same way that some people sweat more and others less. Many people with vulva will experience ejaculation very few times in their lives or even none at all, and all these cases are normal.
More and more I have been experiencing this expulsion of fluid and I am ashamed of what my partner might think, what should I do?
A: Sex is made of fluid exchange and a certain mess, everyone who shares this experience should know this. Don't be embarrassed by the powers and capacities your body experiences. Let the person know that this is a natural response by your body and that it can happen, and have a towel nearby if you need one.
Are coming, ejaculating, and having an orgasm the same thing?
A: No. To come is a verb that applies to many things, including having a satisfying and intense sexual response, but it goes beyond that. To ejaculate, as we have said, is the expulsion of this liquid produced by these specific glands. Having an orgasm, on the other hand, is this apex-like response to sexual stimuli, whether direct or indirect.